Here are some things that the events in my life have taught me.

1. There’s no such thing as bad timing.

…   Everything happens for a reason and it happens when it’s supposed to happen. We might not know the reason for our meeting now or for years to come but the timing wasn’t bad. The timing was just right. The timing was when it was fated to be. The situation and the decisions we made were what made the timing seem bad.

2. Life is too short…

…  for “the investment factor” – because you’ve invested so much time into something that may or may not pay off. Reminds me of that Friends episode where Phoebe is on hold with customer service but wont hang up because she’s invested so much time into it already. She ends up missing a fun evening out only to find out that it wasn’t a toll-free number after all. She’d been on a long distance call for over 24 hours. That time is something you can’t get back. When do you hang up?

… to not grab each moment and live it.

3. Learn from your mistakes.

…  The mistakes I think about in this situation are only a few but still stand out to me. I have let people walk out of my life because “the timing was bad.” I let one person go several times because we never could get the timing issue figured out. With her, I felt such a connection almost as if our souls were intertwined but I let her go. First because I felt I owed it to a relationship I had invested seven years in. then I let her go again because I felt I owed it to a relationship that I had just begun. Now, I don’t know if a relationship with her would have been any different. That gets into number 4. Basically what I did learn is that I don’t owe it to anyone. Not that the people that I chose relationships with aren’t wonderful people who deserve nothing but the best. They do. But if I’m in a relationship with them because I believe I owe it to them, then I’m not giving them my best. And don’t they deserve someone who can give that?

4. You never know what’s going to happen.

…  There are no guarantees. I cant tell you everything is going to work out wonderfully. In fact, one of the things that life has taught me is that things rarely do, but…

…   You’ll always miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.  ~Wayne Gretzky